i spy

a man in a very pink oxford, metallic silver miami-vice jacket, light jeans and black loafers. I would have guessed him gay, but he did not have on a coat in 30 degree weather. A gay man would surely take the opportunity to wear a fabulous leather or fur coat. Maybe he was European ...

Baby , Be My Valentine

Instead of spending Valentines Day having a romantic dinner with the man in my life (my cat), I am spending it in the delivery room with my sister. I really couldn't be happier about it. Well, I'd be happier if my niece would actually make an appearance tonight! I've been sitting here for since before noon. They aren't expecting things to start happening until after midnight! Ugh - no valentine baby after all! This whole baby thing is way too much anxiety for me, and I have to keep my wits about me because my sister is not the calmest person on earth (understatement).

But Where's the Guy I Thought I was Meeting?

Go on a semi-blind date. We have pictures of each other and have emailed back and forth. He seems smart, witty, and funny. I am somewhat excited, but have been here so many times that I know the chances of greatness are slim.

We meet at the Science Club on 19th street. My first visit, and I definitely like the place. I grab a table and a glass of red that the bartender suggested - and it was a great suggestion.

My date arrives (we won't bother with a nickname since he did not gain blog name status), orders a glass of the house red wine after asking about the happy hour specials.

Note to the men: NEVER ask about specials on your first date!!!! It makes you look cheap, immature, and completely uncharming. You don't have to ask for the most expensive thing, but know what you want without asking what is on special.

We chat for a bit about basically nothing. At the decision point (i.e., empty wine glass), he offers to grab a bite. I politely decline using my school work excuse, but suggest one more glass of wine thinking maybe he would loosen up a bit after a second glass.

I would swear this is not the same guy I emailed with. He had almost zero social skills, no conversation starters and just plain out DULL! At the end of the date, I paid my half of the tab, and we went our separate ways.

Another note to the men: If you like your date, pay even if she offers to pay. Dutch is too platonic for a first date and indicates you are not interested.

Wow, even my dates are boring these days. Maybe I should stop dating lawyers.

sweetness

The Redhead has a cold. Apparently I am coming down with something as well because I voluntarily offered to drive to his place after class and bring him soup! For anyone who knows me, this is MAJOR - I don't ever volunteer to do anything nice for a man unless I am getting something in return, I don't drive except on weekends, and I go nowhere after class. After I made the offer over IM, I couldn't believe my own eyes. Did I really just type that??? I think I need to drink more or something ... can't let it get around that I have the ability to be nice to men. My entire reputation is at stake!